WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

• Navigating Pressure Around What to Pack for School Lunch
• Reducing the Mental Load of Deciding What to Pack for School Lunch
• What to Pack for School Lunch When the Budget is Tight
• The Importance of Flexibility When Packing Lunches for School
• Breaking Cycles of Diet Culture
  

When I have polled the Momwell community about the biggest stressors and pressures you face, deciding what to pack for school lunch consistently tops the charts. 

Many of us are carrying emotional relationships with food, fueled by diet culture or unhealthy approaches to food in our upbringing. 

We worry about nutrition. We fear creating picky eaters. We feel the need to research caloric intake so we can pack perfectly balanced meals every day. 

And when we top all of those worries, fears, and insecurities with social pressure to create curated, Pinterest-worthy meals every day for our children, it can feel all-consuming—especially if our children are picky eaters or we’re coping with tight budgets or food insecurity. 

This week on The Momwell Podcast, I’m joined by dietician Megan McNamee, co-founder of Feeding Littles, to discuss how parents can reduce the mental load around what to pack for school lunch, embrace flexibility, and break cycles of unhealthy relationships with food. 

Navigating Pressure Around What to Pack for School Lunch

Deciding what to pack for lunch—it feels like it should be so simple. So why does it feel like a struggle? Time constraints, nutritional concerns, worries about picky eaters—not to mention social media pressure. 

The internet is full of Pinterest-worthy pictures of ornate lunches with fruit cut into fun shapes and never-ending advice about introducing a variety of foods. It can leave us feeling like we have to create complex lunches with brand-new ingredients every single day. 

But the truth is that the lunches we pack don’t have to be so labor-consuming. 

Megan said that school lunches don’t need to be fancy. Some kids might love to eat the complicated meals seen on social media—but many moms don’t have the time or capacity to do that on a regular basis. They shouldn’t feel ashamed for that. 

If you want to add more variety, you can do so without Pinterest-perfect visuals. 

There’s nothing wrong with packing complex lunches if that works for you and your family—just as there’s nothing wrong with buying school lunch if it’s available or sending the same food every day. The goal should be to find what works for you and your child.

But if you do want to add more variety, you can do so without Pinterest-perfect visuals—you can opt for simple and still provide balanced options. 

Reducing the Mental Load of Deciding What to Pack for School Lunch

There are many ways we can reduce the mental load of packing school lunches. Megan said her biggest tip is to pack lunch the night before instead of in the morning rush. It reduces time constraints—and if you pack while making dinner or right after, the kitchen only gets dirty once. 

Megan pointed out that many containers allow you to keep everything separate and fresh for the next day. Even sandwiches can keep well overnight—just add a thin layer of mayonnaise or mustard to each slide of bread to keep it from getting soggy from vegetables. 

Other ways to reduce the mental load and make packing lunches easier include:

• Sticking to a simple formula—a carb or starch, a protein, a fruit, a vegetable, and something fun, like a dessert or a dip.
• Remembering go-to rules for food safety—two ice packs to keep food cold, and focusing on saucy foods if you want to pack a warm lunch
• Focusing on extras—pack some of afternoon snack or dinner for the next day. 
• Rethink what “variety” means—start by focusing on not packing the same thing twice (every day doesn’t have to be original—just rotate a few go-to options).

Megan also pointed out that the decision-making is a big part of the mental load, especially when we want to vary things up. Getting kids involved can help. 

There are no hard and fast rules—let go of the pressure and do what works for your family. 

Her book, Feeding Littles Lunches, has 75 lunch examples with pictures. You can look through it with your child and have them decide what to try next—they might even pick something that surprises you. 

Remember that there are no hard and fast rules—let go of the pressure, do what works for you and your family, and don’t hold yourself up to unreasonable standards. 

What to Pack for School Lunch When the Budget is Tight

One of the hardest things for many families to navigate is budget and food waste.  It can feel hard when we pack fresh, expensive produce and our children don’t eat it. 

Megan said that if your family is struggling financially, then school lunch might not be the time to introduce new foods. Focus instead on what you know your child will eat. 

If finances are tight, school lunch might not be the time to introduce new foods. 

Lunch doesn’t have to be expensive to be nutritious. Megan pointed out that wheat crackers, a beef stick, cheese, and a cookie is a nutritionally balanced lunch. 

She also encourages parents to focus on leftovers if the budget is tight. Kids are often happy to eat cold leftovers if it’s a food they love. Pack some of what you ate the night before for dinner, or use pieces from dinner to create something new. For example, if you make dinner with ground beef, send some of it with chips and salsa for a nacho boat. 

Megan also pointed out that we often get focused on fresh food, but frozen produce has great nutritional value and can help save money. 

It’s important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to do things—work within your budget and focus on “done” instead of perfect. 

The Importance of Flexibility When Packing Lunches for School

It’s hard to let go of the pressure around feeding our children. Food is often very emotionally engrained in us—and feeding our kids healthy meals can feel like a cornerstone of our identity as moms. 

But it’s often helpful to embrace flexibility and let go of our expectations around food—especially if we have picky eaters. We might want to send homecooked nutritious meals every day, but if our children won’t eat it, that might not be the best option. 

It can feel frustrating and defeating if our children won’t eat what we pack for school lunch. But it isnt’ our fault. Megan pointed out that it’s common for kids to not eat at school. They might be struggling to adjust to lunchtime or having too much fun visiting with other children. Or they might have sensory issues that impact what foods they will and won’t eat. 

Experimenting with new foods doesn’t have to be all-or-nothing

Experimenting with new foods doesn’t have to be all-or-nothing. Maybe you just try introducing new foods at home. Or you just send one piece of something new instead of a full serving, with no pressure to try it. 

Megan also said that if your child is going through a period where they will only eat certain foods, don’t force it. We often feel that we’ve done something wrong if our children are picky eaters, or that they aren’t going to get the nutrition they need. But picky eating is common for a range of reasons—and we can’t control what our children will or won’t eat.

Being flexible and adjusting to your child’s stages and preferences can help you avoid battles you can’t win and can help you meet your child where they are at. 

Breaking Cycles of Diet Culture

It’s particularly hard to navigate our emotional relationship with food when we were raised with an unhealthy mindset toward it. For many millennial moms, diet culture was the norm. We might have seen our moms experiment with fad diets and obsess over calories, leading to deep-rooted fear and insecurity about food. 

This diet culture mindset still persists, with “almond moms” obsessing over nutrition or mom shaming each other over sugar intake. It can be overwhelming.

But Megan said that it’s important to let go of the shame, fear, and pressure, and focus on a nutritious diet as a whole. A healthy diet isn’t determined minute to minute—nutritional needs are met over the course of time. 

It’s important to honor our children’s fullness cues. 

Megan said that it’s important to honor our children’s fullness cues and model listening to our own rather than focusing on serving sizes or restrictions. We weren’t always taught to trust our own bodies, but we can help our children trust theirs. 

She also recommends avoiding talking about bodies, weight, or size. Our kids pick up on negative comments about the body, especially when we make them about ourselves. 

We can model body positivity and a more holistic approach to nutrition and food—one that isn’t based on rewards or restrictions. 

This isn’t always easy to do—especially when we’re carrying our own emotional associations and insecurities. But we can break the cycle of diet culture and allow our children to grow up with different attitudes toward their bodies, food, and nutrition. 

If you’re struggling with pressure, guilt, or carving out your own values in motherhood, working with a mom therapist can help! Book a free 15 minute consult today. 

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